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I'm glad your brother is ok. In some rare occasions, I'm glad I don't have a younger brother. Guess one down fall in having and DSG (automatic, whatever) transmission because then it's really easy for anyone to just hop in one and drive off. Manual would work if people knows the basics.
Anyways if I were you, maybe shoot for an Audi? I wouldn't stray away from the TDI it gets AMAZING mileage. My dad has one and the best he's done on his commute to work is about 42 MPG. BUT IMO, it would only be really worth it if you drove a lot, had a far commute, or just prefer the torque a TDI could deliver. Other than those few reasons, IMO it doesn't justify getting a TDI compared to a regular gasoline car.
In the end I do hope that you pick something that you'll like and enjoy driving. Glad to read that your brother is in one piece and well shit happens, everyone moves on in life.